Archive for June, 2010

You CAN go home again…you just can’t stay

Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

I flew into a small airport Sunday. One I’d flown into dozens, maybe hundreds of times. Walking out of the security zone I saw a group of people, some alone, some couples, some families with small children. All were searching our faces as we approached. The were looking for friends, loved ones, and you could see their faces brighten when the found who they were looking for. You could hear a gasp, a child’s squeal of delight, then the five year old would break away from moms hand and run full speed to dads arms. Each time I landed, I wanted that too. But it seldom happened. Sunday was no different. I must not be a greetable person or something. Even when I’d arrive at the house. No one would come greet me, and once in the door, I’d maybe get a surly look, then a door slammed and locked.

I always knew a trip would end like this, I’d always hope it would be different, but it wasn’t. Landing here brought all that back.

It was nice to find my favorite brand of sketchbooks still in stock, to find the curly fries and gyros were just as good as when I left, to experience a quiet small town Sunday afternoon, and find that the research team that had welcomed me three years ago, still welcomed me.

This place is a mixture of painful and joyful memories, a great place to visit, but a difficult place to stay.

…some days…feathers

Monday, June 14th, 2010

There are all kinds of inspirational sayings, two of my favorites are “sure, you win some, you lose some, but you have to suit up for them all” and “some days chicken…some days feathers…”

Today feels like a feathers day.

I can feel  the letdown in my friends, knowing that I didn’t act…what’s the word… diplomatically to remain a contender for a job, and feel the letdown in myself, having to get ready to face some family conflicts at the end of this week, and having faced something inside myself, done what seems like the right thing, but am generally unhappy with the immediate outcome, with little prospect of salvation on that issue in the longer term.

Heading home with that “feathers-in-ones-mouth” feeling, I did something a little different. I drew some lines. Those of you who know me would say “you draw miles of lines!…what’s new with lines?”

What I did was remembering something Professor Dugas taught me. When one is stuck….change! Change your media, change your tools, change your viewpoint, change your colors… and so I did. I picked up a bottle of red ink (well its a bit orangey but its close to red) and then picked up a “dip pen” which is a pen that has a nib similar to a fountain pen, but the nib has an open back, so one can dip the nib in almost anything and not clog it.

As I was drawing my lines (and some dots for a wild change!) it struck me that the dip pen was very similar to what people used to draw with a hundred years or so ago. They’d carve the end of the feather, the quill, with their “pen knife” to form a nib, then dip it in an inkwell and draw until the ink ran out, then dipped again, and kept going.

The dip pen made me think of my elementary school desk, that had a hole in the top for an inkwell (no I’m not that old, we used “bic’s”) but the desk was that old, and the whole feathers in ones mouth thing.

Its true, I was chasing something and had made a last leap for it in recent days, and came up with a handful of metaphorical feathers. Which is decidedly unsatisfying, and because this was an important effort, it was kind of saddening.

But given a handful of feathers, I found the dip pen a very satisfying low technology way to make nice enough lines in paint, something I’ve been trying and failing at for three or four months now, so it turns out, just coming up with feathers might have some potential. Not the same, not as fulfilling, but….its better than a handful of nails…but then, i could make something with nails too…

I guess this is all like something I was sent on facebook last week. “when life gives you lemons…throw them back and demand chocolate!” I guess  as long as I’m looking at what’s at hand and trying to make something beautiful with it, the day is ok.

Well, almost time to consider suiting up again. Hang in there you-all! Be good to each other!

rolling thunder

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

It was hot here Sunday afternoon, no surprise really, afternoons have been bumping up against the 100 degree mark for a few weeks now and about the only cooldown comes after a good rain.

We walked from shade to shade, finally finding enough shade that one could have a social conversation in the quiet of the forecourt. Each time I come to this place, I try to quiet my mind down so my senses might become just a bit more connected to this memorial. I saw two coneflowers in bloom, presented as yellow structures against the green lawn just tinged with brown. We sat quietly using the tree and the last bit of granite that hadn’t yet exceeded 100 degrees surface temperature.

We spoke about memorial, about the sequence of spaces, sounds and materials that skillfully removed visitors from their scheduled lives, from the difficulty parking, from their immediate problems, to help them imagine, or remember the chaos that followed the collapse of the stack in 1999. Twelve people died in that collapse, difficult deaths, crushed to a point where they were pinned, but still conscious, directing rescue efforts towards others on their teams trapped in the tangle of logs and cables until their voices, shouting directions, turned silent. S&R teams were unprepared to rescue people from a tangle this big, where each log moved put other trapped people at risk, it took hours, unprecedented initiative in calling in construction cranes and loaders to carefully secure and remove the logs. A horrible event at 2AM.

I remember being amazed that the huge granite planes in the forecourt were all a single block. Their shape led me to believe it was two blocks skillfully joined to hide the connection, but on close inspection, they were one.

After the crowd thinned, we walked down the stone path, a path designed to narrow as one approaches the memorial site, a path constrained by a tall berm on the left, and a low granite timeline on the right (the 1963 stone is missing, no bonfire happened immediately following the death of the President in Dallas. We walked slowly, silently, arriving at the circle of stones and finding a bit of shadow to sit in. The granite was hot, over 90 degrees I’d guess. But the shade made it more bearable. We talked about material, ok I talked about material, making my friend laugh. I can see now that I hide myself behind a wall of little facts whenever I’m nervous. And I was nervous.

Finally settlling, I could smell rain on the wind. No clouds looked immediately threatening, but within a few minutes, lighting in the northern sky reminded me of counting the seconds between flash and rumble, then comparing with subsequent flashes to know, is the storm moving towards us or away from us. Winds were picking up and seemed to be heading right into the storm as the flashes grew more frequent. One mississippi, two mississippi, then boom! The times were steadily decreasing which meant the storm was closing.

The wind suddenly shifted and was now flowing right out of the storm, right at us. I knew that meant rain was imminent. But it was so hot, and I couldn’t see rain on the horizon so we sat and spoke some more with few words.

The air flowing out of the storm became noticeably cooler, and sprinkles began. We sat for awhile, enjoying the splat of rain on our faces, then walked around the portals making up the memorial. The bronze portals inserted in the granite portal had poetry, personal quotes about the person who had passed away that night. Some of the poetry was as impressive as Rilke. I wondered what class they wrote in and if the writing intensive courses today was producing work of that quality.

The wind picked up, we could see the rain on the road a half mile east, hear the roar of it as it fell on traffic, and now had nowhere to go for dry shelter.

The rain came in hard now, sheets of rain, driven by strong winds. We huddled behind the thin stone portal leg, two of us trying to stand in the rain shadow of one of the monoliths. We stood there silently as rain pelted, lighting flashed and boomed instantly, and a siren went off ominously.We stood close, protecting each other, every once in a while asking if we should run for it or stay some more. I liked staying. The rain smelled clean, cool, kind of a northern rain I want to say. The wind must have been 40 degrees cooler and even though laden with rain, felt dry. Our standing had become a kind of rhythmic sway as we tried to dodge bursts of water and wind, mostly successful, but each of us had the left half of our pants soaked.

Then, it stopped. We began walking through the light shower, walking around the deeper pools formed on the path, past the rivers running in the street, stepping lightly over the leaf boats making their way down to the storm drain at great speed. We went back, changed and set out leftovers, soup, green beans, and some dish made of a part of a cow I don’t think I’d ever tried to eat, and may never try again. But before long, we were standing together as if the rain had followed us. I tried to make a safe place in my arms, we spent perhaps an hour just looking into each others eyes. Then it was time to go back to work. As fast as the rain had begun, it ended.

Usually when it thunderstorms, I’m running to check for leaks at brook hollow, next time, I’ll run a bit slower, and stop and smell the raindrops and remember two trying to become one to overcome the rain all around us.

Keep a weather eye out! If a low green cloud rolls out in front of the storm, appears to curve (bow) watch the southwest edge carefully, thats where the vortex will begin, and once formed, who knows where it will end.

Be good to each other.