Thinking inside the box

November 9th, 2015

I had a chance to view some work done by students here at Texas A&M this past saturday, it wasn’t the usual though, this design work didn’t have the twists, turns, blobs or shards that we so often see in the design studio classes, this was a box.

Actually it was quite a few boxes, you’d know them as shipping containers, amazing steel constructions made for shipping almost anything all over the world. These containers weren’t different on the outside, they were different on the inside. Swing the big doors open, flip the lights on (yep these have power) and you’re standing in a medical screening space. Take a few steps and you’re in an exam room, and go through a door and you’re in the treatment room. This would be a pretty straightforward project in the design studio, but I was walking through the clinic container itself, not a digital model, a physical space.

Then I learned they had built 4 of these and were preparing to ship them to refugee camps in Greece, and to Hati, Hondouras, and Kenya. The students were hosting a reveal of the finished and in-progress clinics saturday, very proud of what they did and looking forward to doing more!

Our three architecture students were the design/construction planning team, and there were nine teams total, looking after everything from project accounting, marketing, operations on site, materials acquisition, and funding. Other Aggies join them to build, paint, assemble and load as they prepare to fill the clinic containers with medical supplies and ship them out.

So is this a 3 credit class or a 6 credit class? Nope, no credits. No credits, no pay, no time off from classes, all done for the greater good, done as a global memorial to students from Texas A&M who died in the bonfire collapse in 1994.

Our university just kicked off a capital campaign to raise a few billion dollars, building a pretty big (even for texas) tent to house a kickoff dinner with music by Earth, Wind, and Fire I think. The campaign theme is “Lead by Example” I couldn’t help thinking that while the big event was going on, the clinic builders were scrambling through the downpour to get ready for their reveal. Tired, wet, but still, come saturday they were prepared and gracious hosts.

The billions they hope to raise will be nice to have I’m sure, but I guess just the scene was such a study in contrasts, one the one hand, spending, a bunch to build a big party tent, and bring in big name entertainment in the heart of campus for one night of hand shaking and check writing and on the other hand proud, wet, tired students putting clinics together on the edge of campus to help people with no motive other than helping make the world a little better. I can’t say either was more important, just that the approach of the students seemed more appropriate to the theme “Lead by Example.”

This kind of thing goes on all around us, people dishing out food at shelters, bringing hot meals to the elderly, buying holiday gifts for the angel trees, dropping coins in salvation army buckets its a good thing. Having a nice dinner under a dry tent is a good thing too, making donations to support good causes is an effective way to leverage the hours of volunteers into more help in more places.

As we approach our bonfire remembrance, as we approach thanksgiving, and the season of holiday lights, its important to keep others in mind, the ones we give our hearts to, the ones we give our hands to, and those we try to reach with a few hours or a few dollars donated.

We’re the only ones who can make a better world, each of us, a little at a time.

If you’d like to learn more about the BUILD program making the clinics, look in on this link. https://www.gofundme.com/buildtamu

Happy Fall Y’All!
Be good to each other

The Tablet of your Heart

October 28th, 2015

The one who holds my heart and I were down south for a wedding last weekend. It was a rainy drive there and back, grey sky, and a misty kind of light filled the landscape softening the cool colors of the trees and intensifying the warmer colors of the grasses that were coming back to life after the three-day soaking.

At the wedding, the celebrant, a grandfather of the groom read a passage and for some reason his words, “the tablet of your heart” struck a chord. The words were “write this on the tablet of your heart.”

I could picture it. A stone tablet, a permanent record, that each of us holds deep within us, and written in stone, those words that mean the most to us. The celebrant read “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart.” Its all from the book of Proverbs, I’d read it before but hearing him say it, in the silent church, with the bride and groom looking deeply at each other, it made me think. What words are on the tablet of my heart?

His recommendation “kindness, truth” are a good start. It wasn’t until I started life again and gave my heart to the one who holds my heart, that I experienced kindness every day. Its odd to say, but true, she does things for me, for others, just out of thoughtfulness, out of kindness. We all should have some of this each day, and of course, you can’t repay kindness with a gift card, you can only repay it with a payment in kind…a kindness.

The dictionary says kindness is a quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Acts that in our polarized political landscape are not really valued. Watching the news, listening to the rhetoric (even spouting some from time to time) one can understand that its hard to be kind and courteous when railing on and on about something or someone. I get reminded that to be kind, considerate, or generous one has to step back from the heat of the moment, look at the people around you and think “wouldn’t they feel better with a cold glass of water right now?”

Well its not always water, sometimes its chocolate, or an unexpected gift, or a hand to hold.

The tablet of ones heart is hard to read. We don’t often look that deeply inside, partly because its hard to do, partly because the tablet has some not so nice things on it. Its part of being human, we can’t always be the best of ourselves. But when we’re not being the best of ourselves, maybe thinking of the tablet, and what’s being etched on it just then, might help us step back, take a breath, and shine a light on the words we want to represent us, kindness, honesty, humility…

I used to have a daydream where the Cubs won the world series. It was with the 1969 team, Banks, Beckert, Kessinger, Santo, as the infield, Jenkins and Hundley as the battery, Williams, Phillips and Hickman as the outfield. It was only a daydream, but that team, it was pretty humble, no superstars, just hardworking team players.

I thought once I’d make a logo of the logos that I’d hope had made me. That Cubs team, the driver of the number 6 in trans am, a driver/engineer named Mark Donahue, Dad’s company logo, the North Dakota State Flag, Virginia Tech’s logo, a collection like that. Some way to remind myself, work hard, be kind, contribute to the team, “us” first not “me” first… Things I aspire to, but don’t always live up to. Maybe those things are on my tablet.

Anyway, the rain is gone for a few days, the air is cool-ish (low 70’s!) and its a good day to take a moment or two, breath the air, look around, and see what could be done to make it a little better.

Be good to each other, be kind to each other, read your tablet!

say what you mean and mean what you say

October 2nd, 2015

The one who holds my heart and I went to see “Everest” last night. I expected the scenery to be incredible and it was, the 3d glasses made many of the scenes too real, I found myself catching my breath, especially as the climbers crossed a crevasse on a bridge made of ladder sections roped together, what a crazy thing to do!

I pretty much knew that it wasn’t going to be a happy ending type of movie, I had heard about the storyline and so I knew not everyone who went up the mountain would come down the mountain. The most incredible scene (spoiler alert) was when the climb leader, stuck on a rock shelf, out of oxygen, frostbitten, understood he wasn’t going to be going home to his wife and soon to be born daughter. His team at base camp improvised a way for his wife to speak to him over the radio, at first motivating him, and when a rescue attempt failed, saying goodbye.

Most of us do that every day, say goodbye as we head out the door, or hang up a phone, or head off on a mission to the grocery store. We say “good bye” and “I love you” as we part. Maybe some people would get used to that, always believing that we’ll be back with them soon, and not giving the words another thought. But, next to our prayers, these actually are some of the most important words we say every day.

I can picture ten families in Oregon today, remembering the words their daughter, son, mother or father said as they headed off to community college, probably wishing they said more, probably wishing they’d have said “wait, don’t go today” but we always go, we have to, go to work, go to the store, wherever, we go because for many of us we don’t get to live each day of our lives together.

So we say how we feel about the person we’re leaving. And we mean what we say.

You never know what a day will bring, be sure to say the words, be sure to mean them.

Take Care of each other, Think well of each other.

Seams

September 9th, 2015

I’ve noticed that quite a few of my paintings lately were focused on seams. Mostly the focus is on seams between layers of clouds, some on landscape seams between stands of trees or crops but mostly clouds.

Thinking about it, I’ve always had an interest in looking between or looking into things. My favorite christmas ornaments were the ones that had a recess with a red dot or other emphasis deep inside, my favorite rocks were clusters of crystals or geodes that could become an imagined landscape, my favorite model railroad buildings were ones where inside you could see a silhouette of someone working behind the counter. Maybe seams are just another way to activate imagination.

I live in a part of Texas where we’re not too far from the gulf, so most of our weather seems to come and go from there. Mornings are humid, and the banks of clouds flow inland like water on the beach, advancing and retreating as they push up against the air masses that come down from Canada. The piles of clouds push and pull and leave gaps inbetween. Those are the seams I seem to focus on.

This weekend, the one who holds my heart and I drove to the hill country for a family wedding, as we headed west in the early evening, the seams in the clouds were especially spectacular. Maybe its the humidity, maybe I just never really saw carefully enough when I lived back east but here, those seams in the sky will sometimes have lines coming through them. Rays I guess you’d call them, Crepuscular Rays are what science calls them, but just plain folks call them God Rays. If you’ve seen them you know why, the combination of a backlit cloud and the brilliant lines radiating from the sun make it so you can almost hear a choir sing.

This morning I took the little dog who holds my heart out for her morning ball toss, and when I walked back in, facing the east, the sun was just popping above the trees across the way, I took a picture and painted it when I got upstairs. The painting turned out ok, but made me think about the seams in the sky. Whats on the other side? Are they windows to another world? Who’s looking back at us from there?

I can’t say I know much about God or heaven. I study, I try to say my thanks every night, but you know, you don’t really hear back, thats not how it works.

We all lose people from our lives, we remember the ones we love, try to forget the ones that caused us pain, but I’d guess most of us would like to hear from loved ones who’ve passed on. Maybe not words, I’m not sure I could handle that, but little signs would be nice, a turtle, an old hammer, the way a daughter or son moves their hands or the particular sound in their voice that reminds us our loved ones live in them, when these signs appear, it makes our heart skip for a moment, then their memory washes over us, we take a deep breath and keep going.

Tomorrow is the anniversary of my dads passing after a long time in a coma. He fell off a roof and landed badly. He never got say goodbye, and I don’t know if he heard our goodbyes either. But we said them, like we say thanks, sending our words, our thoughts out into where? I’m hoping the seams in the clouds let those thoughts pass through, and that like the magic of email, I hope they get to the right spirits on the other side.

I’m lucky to live in a place where the clouds make these little openings, I can see the light from beyond them, the blue sky of peace around their edges, and I can remember a little every day. I’m hoping you can too.

Its especially important to look outside yourself a little each day. To see a beautiful shadow, a blossom, or layers in the landscape, or the magic of seeds growing in your yard. Its important. It helps us remember the things that keep our side of the seam wonderful in the face of ornery bosses, miles of traffic, endless appointments, or ugly energy thrown our way. Its important to remember the love that got us where we are, the love that keeps us, us.

Be good to each other.
Be good to you too.
Be safe.

conversations below the astral plane

August 18th, 2015

There is a moment after you move your eye away
when you forget where you are
because you’ve been living, it seems,
somewhere else, in the silence of the night sky.

You’ve stopped being here in the world.
You’re in a different place,
a place where human life has no meaning.

You’re not a creature in a body.
You exist as the stars exist,
participating in their stillness, their immensity.

Those are the words of Louise Gluck, Poet, from the poem “telescope.” Garrison read them this morning on the writers almanac. Its funny how words stick with you sometimes, maybe I was just ready to hear them. We’re in the anniversary of Dad’s coma period which followed his fall from the roof back in 2006. He would pass in a few weeks in the hands of hospice. During those weeks our family had a campsite set up in the icu waiting room, taking turns sitting with dad, each having our own conversations, holding his hand, talking about memories, what the cubs were up to, who had sent cards, telling him how important it was that he come back, each of us making our own pleadings, saying rosaries, being stern with him, all the while hoping for his fingers to curl around our hand, or his eyes to open, or the EEG to make a little spike, some indication that the conversation wasn’t just one way. We did that for weeks, hoping.

The hospital had sent their ethicist to talk to us and mom when there were no more options neurologically, we were told we’d have to move dad, and given an impossibly short time to find a suitable care facility, or the hospice unit of the hospital. I had been driving back and forth from Virginia, sometimes alone, sometimes with my thenwife who seemed pretty put out by it all. She had insisted on being driven back for a meeting of her writers group the day before he passed, and i made the mistake of listening to why she shouldn’t fly (too expensive?) and we were about an two hours away when the call came in. I wanted to be there with dad and my family and i wasn’t. You can’t do much about the past but i wish i had been there when he went into whatever is after this life.

I had not packed well when I went on one of those visitations and had to buy a warm raincoat. The local sporting goods store had one with a fleece liner and rain shell. I wear that fleece regularly to stay warm in the overly cooled a/c environment at work, and had it with me on the beaches at normandy this summer in the cold windy rain. I think of that time sitting with dad in the icu when i wear it. Its not always sad thoughts, it helps me remember working with him in the rain, fishing with him in the mosquitos, driving with him through the wisconsin countryside. I used to talk with him on saturdays and I remember him telling me how he planned to go up on the roof on his homemade scaffold and work on the chimney. I had said it sounded like a bad idea and that the chimney would go through the winter just fine without his putting the thinbricks back on it. He was sure he could do it, 79 years old and he was sure that his plywood platform with a ladder on it would work fine. Something happened up there, we’ll never know, bees? dizziness? a wiggly platform? reaching too far off the ladder? we’ll never know, all we know is he fell, hit the roof edge, pitched over and hit his temple on the round rock border he put along the sidewalk, the rocks he hauled home from the chimney we took down in minnesota, from the cabin he and mom had honeymooned in some fifty years earlier…

Fall is coming to Aggieland and to most of North America, summers heat will break, the trees will begin to turn, leaves will be raked, furnaces prepped for the winter, snowblowers tuned up, but if you have any inkling to go up and fix something on your roof…don’t. Get a professional who ties themselves off against falls.

And if you have a chance, tell your parents hello, thank them for what they’ve done for you, on the phone, in person, or speak it to the stars.

Be good to each other, we’re all we’ve got.

Friday

August 7th, 2015

Its a quiet morning here in Aggieland, soon the town will refill with parents and children, students arriving from around the country and around the world, but today it was quiet. We need a little quiet to help reflect on life from time to time. I wonder about the things I do, are they important things to be doing with life? I wonder about the people I meet every day, can I forget our last interaction with them and start anew? I think about these things, and wonder. Some things we know, the sun will come up, the one who holds my heart will love me, my children will too, but do i do enough to return it?

I get academically lost every now and then, wondering if the minute things i pick up and spend days, weeks, months tinkering with are important, if the study will mean something to someone. Of course the first step is get it written, then get it published but its hard to keep up the effort when there are other responsibilities that are a bit more tangible, maybe a bit more rewarding. I’m doing that with a tiny question now, what happens when architectural ornament leaves its surrounding frame? Where does it begin then? Where does it end? Silly probably but i wonder. The frame is the rule that had been in place for thousands of years, and then little by little, the ornament crept over the frames edge, and then the frame couldn’t be seen, but was it still there? Underneath, out of sight? What happens when things you have depended on for years erode? Maybe its just change, leadership change, space change, our department is facing that now, and its unsettling.

Jon Stewart retired from his show yesterday, a change that maybe will give a few people less to worry about, and maybe more of us will have more to do now, trying to figure out truth from spin in the rhetoric of the upcoming election. Its always uncomfortable to have to read the viewpoints you don’t like but i think its important to read both sides because the truth is probably somewhere between the left and the right. I think the first debate happened yesterday too but I’m not sure it was a real debate, it was the usual “how do i take this question and turn it to my usual campaign talk kind of debate, kind of a waste of everyones time i think. It would be refreshing if they just told the truth and let us know its just about the money, and the billionaires behind it all are propping up the candidates just to get more money…how much greed does a person need? Just a rant of mine, sorry but its frightening to think that less than two dozen rich guys have bought the media, the candidates, and the elected officials just to make sure they can get a few billion more from the rest of us. Very weird and scary.

Its probably a sign that I’m getting old, idealism is harder to hold on to.

One of those little caption sheets online, a meme?, had a few lines that read something to the effect of “if you like a flower, you cut it and put it in a vase, if you love it, you water it every day.”

Water it every day, life, the people you meet, the people you love, the work you do, and yourself.

Be good to each other

Fathers Day

June 19th, 2015

Fathers day

Fathers day is soon upon us. I’m away this year, and wont be able to be with my daughters which is not so much fun, but knowing they’re safe and building their lives is some comfort.

On fathers day i think about my dad, mostly because the last few of his fathers days we spent together up at the lake. Sometimes we’d golf in Bigfork, a little golf course without many challenges beyond chipmunk holes, occasional mosquito clouds, and a persistent 20 mph wind from the north. We’d play golf on windy days because it was too rough to fish, the upwind drives turned into chip shots and the downwind drives would usually blow past the greens. Dad wouldn’t keep score other than by counting how many balls i hit in the water…he usually kept his in play. The little clubhouse shack had a few microwaveable burritos and coke, and the last year we golfed they had a cart working so we could ride instead of walk.

We’d have had breakfast at the laundromat/cafe in Marcel, Dad would get his eggs over, i’d get mine scrambled. The bacon was always good, the pies and cinnamon rolls always tempting, and the thrum of the machines was never drowned out by local conversation.

After golf we’d sometimes make the run to the rapids for parts or to pick up a motor found not working after winter storage, i think most years i’d get Dad a deep cycle trolling battery, the seemed to not take the winters well up there, and not hold charge very long.

All this started around 5:30 in the morning, there was no sleeping in on vacation! So by the time breakfast, golf and the drive to the rapids happened,it would be time for a late lunch at the diner. Last stop was the IGA store for groceries, then back home for evening fishing.

The next day was usually a workday, fixing, charging, framing, trimming, mowing, splitting or rearranging the parking order of the tractors, which involved more charging, changing gas filters, jumpstarting, tire filling and sometimes hydraulic surprises. I think the point was to get every bit of equipment up and running, just in case we needed three tractors… I never questioned, just got the tools and went to work. We had an unwritten rule that only one of us at a time could get frustrated with a bolt or clamp to the point of cussing. The other persons job was to be heads up for where the wrench would land after being flung, fetch it, and enter the fray with the machine until it was wrench flinging time, then the other person had to be standing by with cold rootbeers to sip on and regroup.

Evenings would usually be playing cards after fishing (if the wind was right) until the sun set, the frogs croaked and the mosquitos massed for attack. Then we’d do it all again…

I know that lake pretty well, but without dad its not the same.

Being away on fathers day took something from my daughters, i know that, and the world has changed now, but i think of them daily, i see the sparkle in their eyes, the looks that speak volumes, and the groans that come along after a good bad pun.

Heard another few ggod ones from the one who holds my heart’s son….what do you call a fish with no eyes? “Fsh”…and what does a fish say when it swims into a wall?
“Dam!”

Think about it, think of your dad wherever they are, thats all we want for fathers day.

Mr. Greer

June 17th, 2015

A pillar of the architecture community of Texas is being laid to rest this week. Mr. Greer was long established in practice, education, administration, and as the historian of our community of educators at Texas A&M.

I only knew him a few years, i remeber him as one of the stern faces in the front row when i interviewd at A&M, i couldn’t read his face, and didnt know if my talk was doing well or failing.

It turned out well, and a few months after i settled in he mentioned that he thought hiring more licensed architects to teach was a good thing. As an administrator trying to learn the system there, i could see he had been slowly marginalized by succeeding generations of faculty, we restored his courses, but weren’t completely successful. He retired not completely happy, but fully committed to the university and its future.

I probably see a bit of myself in his last years and wonder if i will accept the little indignitites of aging in the university as well as he did.

I’m a few thousand miles away today, trying to update my knowledge, to have some quiet moments in beautiful gardens with the one who holds my heart, so i wont be at the service to say goodbye, but have him in my thoughts as he is laid to rest.

Amid cathedrals and palaces that have endured hundreds of years, Mr. Greer stands out as a maker of architects, and a shaper of our profession, something harder to take pictures of, but maybe more enduring.

Remember your teachers today, they helped make you what you are.

Remembering Chuck

April 21st, 2015

Regular readers to this page have probably figured out that over the years, my small circle of friends has gotten smaller. A bit ago I learned that my friend Chuck passed away yesterday. 

Chuck loved the outdoors, loved to fish, i think he loved the peace and quiet of sitting in the boat, thinking through the events of life, visualizing the topography of the lake bottom, the weed cover, correlating it to the temperature, barometer, and wind to solve the puzzle of where the fish were and what could be done to entrance them onto the bait. He was a fisherman for as long as i knew him, organizing trips to the boundary waters, spending weekends on the Mississippi, and more recently at the lakeplace he and Judy had.

He had trailered his boat up to Dad’s lake one summer and Dad, Steve, Chuck and i had a great time. Chuck had pretty much every fishing lure made, in pretty much every color too, i remember every compartment in the boat was filled with tackle boxes, That day, the catching wasn’t good but the company was.

I first met Chuck at NDSU, he and Judy took us out in the big Chrysler from time to time. I remeber him talking about working on road building crews, and his interest even then in designing buildings for healthcare. Chuck practiced in Fargo for awhile, with MTL, later with Norm. I think Chuck taught Norm a few things about fishing, and learned about project administration. Steve and I worked for a competing firm, but Chuck’s quiet professionalism made it easy to sit out in Steves yard on summer evenings talking about woodworking, specifying, old cars and life in general. Every once in a while we’d make a comment that would earn a “michael, michael, michael” from him as he shook his head and then proceeded to set us straight with “you know, a guy should…”

Chuck and Judy had an older home in Fargo, in a neighborhood that had an alley. I remember driving down that alley saturday mornings, seeing the garage door open, which meant stop in and see the days project. Mark’s pickup would be there, Steve’s volvo too, and i’d find them talking over an especially perfect bit of oak, or cedar, and planning out the way to cut,sand and finish it just so….”you know a guy could…..” Would go back and forth until a solid plan was hatched, then we’d disburse and begin our saturday project. 

Chucks garage was the center of many projects, precut adirondack chair kits, a redwood strip canoe that Steve and i helped fiberglass, and Chucks house itself. I remember it was tall and needed paint, and unphased by the bigness of setting scaffolding, scraping, sanding, priming and painting the whole thing, he set about doing it. I spent a lot of time there that summer, trying to learn about not working all the time, painting his house with him taught me that, and other things “a guy could…”

Chuck and Judy had Brian soon after and moved to a job with the Mayo, where Chucks patience and expertise with detail and follow through helped establish him with some pretty demanding personalities. With Judy, they made a family he is tremendously proud of and must miss him terribly.

We spoke about a month ago, i had hoped to bring the one who holds my heart north to see their lake place, spend a little boat time together and learn a few more things about the way a guy could fix or make something.  

He taught me lots, was generous in his Knowledge of architecture and construction, and was a quiet expert in any room full of experts. I miss him already.

I think a guy should remember Chuck, especially when fishing, making things with wood, or sitting next to the grill on a balmy weekend, and in those times when a loud voice would be a normal reaction, step back and hear his humility.

Please keep his family in your thoughts, in these coming months.

Be good to each other, call that old friend today and have a chat, a guy just doesn’t have too many friends.

the terrible and the wonderful

April 16th, 2015

Many of us who are part of the Virginia Tech family are reflecting on the terrible events that happened this time of year back in 2007. Thirty two friends, colleagues, classmates, fellow Hokies were taken from us by a sick fellow who had too much ready access to guns and ammunition.

As I awoke with the one who holds my heart, I could hear a siren from the nearby firestation, and hear the approach of a helicopter to our little airport here in Texas. The sounds took me back to day, the sirens, helicopters, the feeling of helplessness at not being able to get to the students who were our charges and the shock at learning what happened in Norris Hall. The stories are amazing, students rushing the gunman, faculty holding doors shut with their bodies to give their students extra seconds to jump from windows, incredible heroic acts. But I think mostly we feel the loss.

I left Blacksburg a little over a year later, partly because of that day, the difficulty of walking past the memorial and the site of the shootings and partly to get back to doing what I love. Leaving had its own costs, mostly financial, but had its own rewards too.

It turns out life is pretty wonderful now, today, tempered by the anniversary of the terrible day back in 2007, but pretty wonderful really. My daughters are safe, building their lives, following dreams, excited by possibilities, I’ve met, handed my heart to, and married a wonderful woman of grace and beauty, and I’m teaching what I love to teach. Life wouldn’t be what it is without that terrible day, love wouldn’t be as sweet, my family wouldn’t be as close, and the horizon wouldn’t be as long without that terrible day. I knew people who died that day, its hard to hold back the tears thinking of that day. Maybe its a survival behavior, but i can both grieve and live now.

I know there are families that have much deeper losses, I think of them today, and hope their lives have grown back a little.

There is that old song that’s called “Look for the Silver Lining,” some of the words are
“Look for a silver lining,
whenever a cloud appears in the blue,
remember somewhere the sun is shining,
and so the right thing to do is make it shine for you,
a heart full of joy and gladness,
will always banish sadness and strife,
so always look for the silver lining,
and try to find the sunny side of life.”

I wouldn’t have thought it possible back in 2007 but I think it can happen, something good can come of something bad, we just have to look for it, focus on the good, and see the wonder around us…a first strawberry, a hand holding yours, heroes walking next to you, spring flowers, a new old house, a move, a new job, all there. All happening near you right now, as taps fades in the silence.

Life is a mystery that way.
A baby is born, a tragedy happens, but we go on, loving those near us, and those gone from our sight. We just have to see the good and work to diminish the bad.

Anyway, keep on the sunny side! Honor those you hold in your memory, hold those who are in your heart.

Be good to each other